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The
News Journal
Saturday,
January 11, 1997
Wilmington, Delaware
Personality
Plus Seminar Offered
by Rhonda B. Graham
People laugh
when Rose Maria Faulkner sums up her back-
ground: a former beauty queen and naive housewife with a flaming
temper that matched her hair color
Now the mother
of three adult children, Faulkner tells crowds she finally realized
that when "you are enrolled in the self-improvement course for
the other person, it doesn't work."
The women are
promised insight on why their spouses and children act the way they
do, and help in parenting and developing harmonious marriages. But
lately, Faulkner has been asking retreat attendees about how their
personality affects their relationship with God. The answers proved
true to personality type.
"The
popular sanguines - they're the fun-loving, life-of-the-
party type - will say he is a God of joy. The take charge cholerics
saw God as being all-powerful, sovereign as being
omniscient," she says. "The melancholies view God as the
supreme deity of order, a wonderful genius responsible for orderly
creation of the universe. And as their label suggests the phlegmatics
- peaceful, contented types, who tend to procrastinate and prefer the
status quo to controversy - have difficulty nourishing their spiritual
life.
"They may
not see that they need to change," explains Faulkner after
reviewing responses from a recent retreat. "They admitted that
they found it hard to set aside time to have a quiet time to pray and
to read the Bible. Probably phlegmatics may have a hard time becoming
a Christian because they may put off making a decision."
Faulkner tells
churches they should try to stack committees and councils with all
these personality types, despite the inherent weaknesses of each
category.
"See, what
we should really want is for Jesus to be the pastor, because He had
all the strengths of all the personalities and none of the
weaknesses."
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